Note: Okay, this is getting longer (not to metion silly), but this post is in response to these comments and this post, which was a response to this comment on the post from the previous day. PTHHHBBBBBT!!!
‘I seem to have got the getting the girl (or boy) part down, but I’ve been stuck on the question of “Once you’ve got them what should you do with them?” for quite a long while. So much of the “dating” scene seems to be about finding that special someone and then getting to know them/impressing them/convincing them to stick around. I’ve got that part down pat. I can see almost immediately who someone is and whether or not they are the sort of person I can get along with. I’ve learned how to be myself, and that seems to be all that’s necessary to get to know them, impress them, and convince them that they like to spend time with me. I just … I don’t know what to do next.’
-Teel, May 16th, 2001
I swear, it’s like I’m in a coma sometimes, unchanging. Two years ago, in the first posts on FYTH I was posting about the exact same things as I’m posting now. I guess I’ve made some progress. I was trying to figure out how one figures out what one’s core values are, and today I feel I have said values and try to live by them. I wasn’t sure what I wanted out of ‘relationships’, and today I have a pretty good idea – that About a Boy quote pretty much covers it, it’s mostly about mutual affection and, well… actually being IN a relationship. And while I may still have the ability to go from stranger to interested acquiantence, I still don’t know how to break the threshold from interested acquiantence to boyfriend/girlfriend.
Is it as easy as just stating my interest in said level of relationship?
Most of the things I can’t wrap my head around that everyone else just takes for granted end up coming down to some simple thing like that. I’d hate to have been struggling with this thing for more than two years and have it come down to something simple like “the only thing you have to do to get what you want is declare that you want it, so you can find out whether they want it, too.”
Oh, and as long as I’m reading old posts, here’s an interesting one from May 21st, 2001: “Right now, I’m going to go fiddle around with Modern Evil and see if I can’t make it even LESS appealing.”